How destructive limits can be? How often you hear colleagues, friends, friends of the friends, neighbors, family members telling what they would like to do, but they are afraid of something. Every new beginning is really scary, and from myself I know how many bad things you are thinking before something new starts. And after all you realize that it is not possible to fail so strong that you don’t have other options after. All this life is about options – if you choose something, try so hard, give all your heart, but get nothing back, what is the point to continue? Mostly I am talking about my generation, but I see older people scared to much a lot. I mean if you are healthy, if you are smart, if you are kind and intelligent, how is that possible you think you will fail? We can do, have and be exactly what we wish.
How destructive can we be? Definitely this is very important factor why there are so many self unsecured people. I see people being happy if you fail. People want you to fail. They want to be better than you. They make you feel they are better. No mistakes, no confusion. And this makes us to prove something for people you don’t really need to think at all. You are doing something not because you want, only to show they were wrong.
How many times you heard “didn’t I tell you?”
“Didn’t I tell you I am right?”
“Didn’t I tell you don’t do that?”
“Didn’t I tell you’re going to fail”?
“Didn’t I tell you I know better”?
Dear Lord, WHY? I come to you expecting support, expecting to make me feel better, to live the moment, but you attack me. I am not you and you are not me. Sometimes I wish we learn more about shutting down at the right moment.
I am wondering or I actually know people do that trying to protect and wishing all the best, but if this is the way you show love, do you really love that person? Do you really think there is no other way to show how important he/she is for you? I remember when I was thinking to start to write this blog, I asked good friend of mine what she thinks, if it’s a good idea. And she said yeah, you can write, but what is your topic? People write about fashion, flowers, cars or any other things, and you will write about nothing. And of course I care about this friend, I respect her opinion and I was wondering first of all, is that true, second – why I can’t write whatever I want, and third – why she said like that. She knows me very well and she knows that this not my topic only, this is the way I express myself, realize what matters for me.
I don’t want life based on survival, I refuse to have it. Maybe it will take all my life to search, maybe I will never find what I am looking for, maybe I will never surely understand who I am, but I will give all my efforts to try. And I refuse to have people around who are not planning to help me to do that.
I believe we have to push ourselves to be better person.
Help people. Listen and support.
We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.
Maybe for somebody you are the only one doing that.